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message requests

Messages from people outside your usual contacts can be routed differently from normal chats. Inspect requests and spam areas inside your own account.

For your own account or agreed access.
Make changes in the official service.
INTERFACE ILLUSTRATION09:41
Message request
JR

JR

Not in your usual contacts

Fictional sender · identity unverified
NEW REQUEST
Hi, can I send you the plan?
Review before responding

Read what accepting changes in the current app.

DeleteAccept
A familiar name alone does not verify the sender.
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Interface illustration · fictional data · not affiliated with Facebook
PRACTICAL CHECK

Find the request. Verify the sender.

  1. 01

    Requests

    Open the current request-management view.

    What this tells you

    A request or spam area can explain why a conversation is outside the normal inbox.

    Review only your own account. A missing main-inbox entry does not by itself prove deletion or a failed delivery.

  2. 02

    Sender

    Review the sender before following links or replying.

    What this tells you

    You have checked the identity and context independently of the message’s claim.

    A familiar display name or support claim is not verification. Do not use a link supplied by the request as your only check.

  3. 03

    Response

    Use report or block controls for a suspicious request.

    What this tells you

    The response fits the risk and the boundary you want.

    Read the current Accept, Delete, Report or Block prompt. If reporting matters, review the relevant context before removing your copy.

COMPARE THE EVIDENCE

Where a conversation appears matters.

Area or actionWhy inspect itImportant boundary
Regular chatsAn existing conversation may be in the normal list.Placement does not verify every message or link.
Message requestsAn unfamiliar sender may be routed here.Receiving a request is not an obligation to accept it.
Spam areaReview separately if your account offers it.A message here may still need careful sender checks.
Accept or deleteRead the effect before confirming a response.Acceptance can change the interaction; deletion is not the same as blocking.
PUT IT IN CONTEXT

From unfamiliar request to a considered response.

An unfamiliar “support” request demanding a code should be verified through an independent official route.

INTERFACE ILLUSTRATION09:41
BEFORE

Request waiting

Request from JRAccept / Delete · decision pending

An unfamiliar sender asks to share a plan. You have not established who they are.

AFTER · ILLUSTRATION

Identity checked first

Independent identity checkThen read the response prompt

Verify through a route you already trust. Then decide whether to accept, delete, report or block using the current prompt.

Interface illustration · fictional data · not affiliated with Facebook
YOUR NEXT DECISION

Choose a response without rushing.

The context checks out

Read what accepting or replying will change. A legitimate request can still be declined.

Choose your contact boundary →

The sender claims a false identity

Keep relevant context and use the official reporting flow. Verify independently before following instructions.

Review impersonation reporting →

The chat is still missing

A request check is one possible location check. Distinguish an archived conversation from genuinely unavailable history.

Check for an existing copy →

A request asking for a code.

Stop the interaction and use the official service independently. Do not provide the code here, in the request, or to a tool claiming to verify the sender.

A LIMIT THAT MATTERS

Keep this boundary.

Moving or accepting a request can change the interaction; read the current prompt.

Never send a password or verification code in response to a request. A support-themed name is not evidence that the sender represents the service.

References and current instructions
CHECK THE ORIGINAL

Go to the source.

Labels, menu placement and feature availability can change. These are original interface illustrations; use the current official explanation before changing a setting.

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